Before September, I thought my role was going to be caring for my baby as a somewhat stay at home mom. Now I’m a mom with no physical baby and it’s been a challenge to get back to my life before Adeline because my life is different.
A couple of months ago I took a class for people that have experienced trauma in their life. The class was called “Healing the Wounds of Trauma” (I strongly recommend it! I did mine through my church). In the class we talked about grieving and how there’s a journey to grief. Part of that journey is “New Beginnings.” This is where you are ready to make a new life, whether have another child, find a new spouse, etc. It’s called “New Beginnings” because loss changes you. I feel that we as culture tend to ignore grief. We don’t want to make people feel uncomfortable and, therefore, don’t address the grieving person. The truth is, as a mom I want to talk about my baby. Just because she isn’t here doesn’t mean that I want to act like she didn’t happen. Sure sometimes it might make me cry, but those tears are part of grieving.
Since losing Adeline I’ve been finding ways to keep busy: whether it’s a project around the house or a trip out of town. I feel that it’s helped me in my grieving process. The biggest project that I completed, with the help of my best friend Kristi and Lawson, was our kitchen!
Lawson bought our house before I knew him, so moving in it was hard because I didn’t have a say in “our first house.” Since we’ve been married I’ve wanted to update our kitchen. I guess Joanna Gaines inspired me in some way because I feel like she said once that “the kitchen is the heart of the home.” Anyway here are the steps that went into updating our kitchen.
First the before…
This was the only picture I could find that had the old backsplash and paint in it. (Don’t judge my Taco Bell cup, it’s an old picture and it was a pregnancy craving.)
The old backsplash’s gone! I just used a razor blade and hammer and it came up nicely. I did have to patch some areas with thin-set to make it even.
The new countertops are from ProStone. I wanted white, but we weren’t replacing the floors so I needed to find something that had some deeper tones in it. We both fell in love with the Dallas White Granite! It’s white with gray and brown throughout.
This is where Kristi came in! We used a 12×12 mosaic subway tile with premixed mortar. This made it easy to work with. Also, notice the bottle of wine in the picture. You’re going to need this to help get you through tiling + grouting haha.
Tile’s up! I don’t have a picture of the grouting part, but I chose Mapei’s Pewter. I probably could have gone with a little darker one, but I liked how it turned out.
The cabinets…I could have left the cabinets as is, but I wanted more of a farmhouse feel. I went with Anne Sloan Chalk Paint in French Linen. I’ve done various projects with her chalk paint and it’s so easy to use and you really can’t mess anything up with it. They only come in quart jars and they seem expensive but you honestly get a lot out of one jar. I think I used around 2 jars to paint all the cabinets and I did 3 layers. To paint, I took the doors off to paint to make sure everything was completely painted.
The one thing about chalk paint is that it’s not waterproof so you need to put a top coat on afterwards: wax or a polycrylic. I went with a polycrylic top coat just because I wanted something that I didn’t have to worry about once I was finished. With wax it requires touching up due to wear and tear and I don’t have time for that haha. Once I was finished painting and sealing the cabinets I replaced the hardware with some knobs that I found online. Before Adeline was born we painted the kitchen a light greige, it’s Pale Oak by Benjamin Moore.
It probably took us 3 weeks to finish the project completely. People have asked me if it was hard to do? I wouldn’t say it’s hard, but it does require time and patience. That’s why I would recommend a good bottle of wine and a friend to help! We’re very happy how everything turned out! Hope that was helpful! Feel free to comment below if you have any questions!